💌 The Message I Wish I Could Send (But Didn’t)

There’s a message sitting in my drafts.

It’s not rage-filled.

It’s not dramatic.

It’s not even long.

It’s just honest. And that’s the problem.

Because when you’ve been gaslit, dismissed, blamed, and picked apart, honesty becomes risky.

Even when it’s reasonable.

Even when it’s calm.

Even when it’s true.

This post isn’t about getting the last word.

It’s about honouring the things we’ve had to leave unsaid, because we chose peace over performance.

🗣 The Message

I never sent this.

But I wish I could have.

“Your version of the story will never match mine.

Not because one of us is lying,

but because only one of us was ever trying.”

💥 Why It Matters

So many of us carry these unsent messages.

Not because we didn’t know what to say,

but because we were always the ones making it safe.

• You took the high road when it hurt.

• You bit your tongue while they twisted the narrative.

• You stayed silent to avoid more chaos, more drama, more damage.

That’s not weakness. That’s strategy.

🎯 Want help saying just enough—without opening the floodgates?

Download my Courtsafe Comebacks or grab the SHUT. IT. DOWN. card deck for safe, scripted replies that protect your peace and your paper trail.

💔 When You Can’t Say What You Want To

Let’s be real, it’s not just co-parents we hold back with.

Sometimes it’s the Flying Monkeys.

Sometimes it’s the old friends.

Sometimes it’s even your own family.

You’re constantly having to manage other people’s comfort, reactions, and ego, while sitting on a whole mountain of truth you never asked to carry.

That’s why spaces like the Single Mama Academy matter. Because it’s the only place where you get to take the mask off, say the thing, and be met with “me too.”

🔐 If you’re craving a space where you don’t have to water yourself down, reply with ACADEMY and I’ll send you a private link to join.

💗 Real Talk

If you’re carrying an unsent message,

I see you.

If your voice shakes when you try to advocate for your child,

I see you.

If you write and re-write and delete and rewrite every text,

I see you.

You are not crazy.

You are not bitter.

You are not overreacting.

You are reacting to chronic invalidation while trying to keep life stable for the people you love most.

🛍 Small Things That Help

Even when you can’t say the big thing, there are little ways to take your power back.

Here are a few of mine from the Amazon Storefront:

🖊 Notebooks for journaling and scripting messages

📚 Books to help kids name what’s going on emotionally

🎧 Noise-cancelling headphones for when you need space

Explore more tools and calming mama must-haves → Shop the edit

✉️ Got One You Never Sent?

Hit reply and tell me the message you wish you could send.

You’re not alone. And saying it somewhere safe? That counts.

More support coming your way soon.

— Katie x